Quinne said a lot of the things I was about to say....particularly about the way others can shape our reality.
I was also a victim of spousal abuse, many years ago - I took the blame...after all I loved this person, so it must be me at fault, right?...
I made excuses...well I do drink a bit, I smoke a ton of weed, I am very stubborn and she does have her own behavioural issues...
but in the end I believe there's no excuse for violence.
Domestic abuse is about fear and frustration and above all power - our relationship was ending and we both knew it...
but it's nothing about love, Ken, nothing at all.
I hope you will check out some DV stuff.
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