Good for you. If you didnt miss him, or if you werent angry at him for messing up your relationship, it would mean it didnt matter enough to impact you. It is OK to be angry, OK to be sad about relationships, within reason and within limits. These feelings are what us drinkers used to be able to avoid, or at least check out of on demand. All our problems were still there after the drinking, but what we loved about drinking is just letting all your problems go, and usually hanging out with others who are doing the same thing. The problem is, that that isnt how life works. If you are sad or angry, you'd best work your way through it with a booze break, which won't solve anything, eats up time, and always leave you with less money and a hangover. The other big problem of course, is that this temporary check out means you can become addicted and unable to control your drinking, messing up or completely ruining your life and those around you. A high price to pay for something that takes the edge off, just a little something to help you relax. enjoy your children, they will move on soon enough as kids do, and you wont have this family time ever again. treasure each day, and guard your treasure well, Happy Holidays.