Welcome to the SR family!
Thank you for taking the time to share your story with us. You are not alone! We understand the frustration of watching a loved one become consumed by their addiction.
I see that you went to an NA meeting with your wife. NA meetings are a good resource of support for HER, but what about YOU? Have you been able to locate Nar Anon (12 step recovery group for friends and family of Narcotics Users)? In some areas Nar Anon meetings are not available and Al Anon meetings are the next best thing!
When I first arrived here, I learned about the 3 C's of my husbands addiction:
I did not CAUSE it
I can not CONTROL it
I will not CURE it
It was some time later before I finally accepted how powerless I truly was over his addictions to alcohol and gambling.
Reading and posting here at SR have also helped me. Some of our stories are printed in the Sticky Posts at the top of this main forum page. I am always finding wisdom in those posts.
Here is one of my favorite Sticky Posts. The steps in this post helped me to find serenity while living with my loved ones active alcoholism:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...l-problem.html