Originally Posted by
awuh1 
No I don’t think it means condescending. I think it means gracious (charm, good taste, kindness, and generosity) but it is the underlying motive that is being addressed. Graciousness here being just one more way of attempting to exert control over others. The quote is from page 61.
IMO perfunctory or superficial would have been a better choice of words in this instance.
perfunctory - [adj]
1. done superficially, only as a matter of routine; careless or cursory
2. dull or indifferent
superficial -[adj]
1. Of, affecting, or being on or near the surface: a superficial wound.
2. Concerned with or comprehending only what is apparent or obvious; shallow.
3. Apparent rather than actual or substantial: a superficial resemblance.
4. Trivial; insignificant