Splendra,
i know it's an easy thing to say but really hard to do, i wish there was an easier way to deal with this disease that is affecting the one we truly love beside from breaking away from them, but it seems to be the only solution if you truly care about yourself as well. pls do pray for me and i'll pray for you, be strong and put your foot down, as petunia said, you deserve better and we all deserve to have a life where we can grow old with our husbands and not worry how to survive when they are gone or passed out. whatever you decide to do, we are all here for you.
hugs