I don't think people are blaming you. I think they're trying to point out that situations can "trigger" you to want to drink, but that you have the ability to choose not to. Just by you knowing rejection triggers you and you came here first instead of drinking is a sign that you're learning and starting to use some other coping mechanisms. So you should feel proud about that. Go for a walk/run. Listen to upbeat music. Don't listen to sad music. Make yourself some tea or bake something yummy. Anything to love yourself and pass the time. This is your one little life and absolutely nothing deserves to have the power to ruin your sobriety and everything you've learned and done. Hang in there.