Restraining orders are almost always granted if they are mutual. If you violate them though the police can't enforce them, you gotta go see the judge.
Protective order has teeth, any peace officer can arrest on a violation of a protective order.
Don't engage with him, don't even look his way and just let your lawyer do their job.
If you testify, speak slowly and only answer what you are asked. Watch what you say - no insults and nothing dramatic. Understand the game - lawyers try to make men look dangerous and make women look flaky and hysterical. Go Vulcan on his ass and keep your head.
Live long and prosper ;-)