Originally Posted by
NewBeginnings2 
I dont think its selfish and cold to give up being emotionally and spiritually raped by someone who care only about their own personal gains and pleasures and start looking out for yourself like your own best friend...and that, to me, is what it is (overcoming codependency)
There is nothing wrong with caring, but you should be cared about as well.
Thats the difference, IMO.
Oh I agree when it comes to caring about an addict but I am also seeing something I dont like in Alanon and my Coda group.
Maybe I am just not far enough along in my own recovery. But It still just bugs me how many "breaks" an addict gets while a mother with kids is left to fend for herself and them.