I am sorry for your friend's loss of their child. Am sending good thoughts and
prayers for their family.
I am very glad that your son is comfortable at being able to communicate with
you his feelings.
You, however, are still EXPECTING your AH to be something he is NOT. He
has told you over and over in words and in his actions WHO HE IS, when are
you going to believe him? And once you believe him you will have to decide
if you can live with him this way for the rest of your life or not.
Sending good thoughts and prayer also for your family.
Love and hugs,