Wow. My ah does the SAME thing. he makes everyone elses problems his own like severly his own. guess it feeds into his addict behavior.
then when it comes to me talking to him about ANYTHING it upsets him doesnt want to talk about it even if it has NOTHING to do with him.
even if it were the news.....cant talk about it....he hates sad stories.
Gets made even extremely mad to anything that is even remotely upsetting. forget talking about finances , he hates those too.
plans for the future? yea.....if its not about what HE wants .....those upset him also.
ALL this is girl is an addict being a child.....a drunken child.
I have cried also ....i should be able to talk to him and have a normal heartfelt conversation without him blowing up at me, making it about him or teling me he just doesnt want to hear it. selfish selfish behaviour......because as soon as he wants to talk about something depressing/upsetting that has to do with HIM i had to sit and listen for hours and watch him spiral down.
Sorry for your loss and I am sorry that the one person you should be able to talk to wont listen but We are listening here on sr.