When can you start 12 steps?
While my husband was in rehab, I took the advice of members of this forum and became active in my own recovery, learning about codependency and working the 12 steps. My husband has now returned and I asked him if he did the steps at his rehab, and he said that they advised strongly against doing them right away. He said they were told to wait at least 3 months before attempting to do them, otherwise they wouldn't be completely honest with themselves. I'm not asking to see his steps- I'm sure there would be personal information he'd rather me not see, just as I wouldn't want to share what I'd written with him. I'm just wondering if anyone else has been told this before. It would seem to me that the sooner you do your steps, the better.