We start out wanting our own way. We want our wills to be satisfied. We take and we do not give. Gradually we find that we are not happy when we are selfish, so we begin to make allowances for other peoples’ wills. But this again does not give us full happiness, and we begin to see that the only way to be truly happy is to try to do God’s will.
I never thought I was a "taker" until I got into this program. I always felt I was the guy giving everyone the shirt off my back, but I realized later that what I was really doing was expecting to get a fur coat back. My selfish motives were always hidden under good motives.
Resentments always followed my selfishness - I made a nest out of them. And even when I did get people to do as I wanted, it was only a brief flash of happiness...and then I wanted more. Insatiable. Like alcohol.
It's only now that when my will aligns with God's am I truly free and happy and no longer have to wrestle with my will or anyone else's.