Welcome to the SR family Punkin!
I'm so sorry for the reason you are here, but glad you found us. This is a wonderful resource of support and info.
At the top of this main forum page are 14 links with a padlock on the left column. They are referred to as the "sticky posts". They contain some of our stories and loads of wisdom.
Your story is familiar and brought to mind a sticky post. This post contains information about how we keep getting hooked back into boundary-less relationship AND the link contains steps to help us learn how to break those patterns.
I hope you find some help from this info:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...tionships.html