I am glad you are doing well.
It is only after we have been set free from the world of an addict
do we come to realize the hell that was our life.
The sickness that is ours skews reality and actually makes us mourn for this past.
Sobriety for the addict is giving up substance.
Our sobriety is letting go of them.
Our sobriety is taking care of ourselves first.
Our sobriety is "taking the focus off of them and placing it where it belongs,
on our own lives."
For some that is changing the dynamics of the relationship.
For others that is detaching from the relationship completely.
But whatever the path that is right for you, recovery only comes with sobriety.
And sobriety only comes with change.