I almost feel like I am running out when he needs me
Unfortunately addiction isn't like any other affliction. What helps the addict most is getting out of their way and letting them suffer the consequences of their addiction, including how their antisocial behavior ruins their relationships with the people who love them.
Thanks to SR, I've learned that I can love people from a distance, while never expecting them to be anything but what they are, and without needing their validation.
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