Yep say you are sorry and move on.
Your husband is not in recovery. Recovered A's do not have even 1 drink because
they know where that drink leads them.
I know, I am a RA for many years.
Sounds to me like you have a relapse in the making. I would suggest you get
thy self to some Alanon meetings. Try at least 6 different ones to get an idea
which ones feel more like they fit with than others. Please start working on
yourself as I believe this will get worse before it gets better.
Love and hugs,