This is a tough situation to be in and my heart goes out to you. You're right to keep the focus on you and your child because there's nothing you can say or do that will get your husband to stop drinking. You have time to make plans to live elsewhere ... Alanon is a big help.
When I was a drunk, numerous girls referred to me as their soulmate.
They were each very codependent.
Thanks for posting this ... it once described me but, thank God, not any longer.