I think a love / hate relationship is pretty normal.
I've been in the addict position (now recovering) and my husband is currently an addict so I've been on both sides. Felt the love/hate in each situation. It's hard to really understand it though.
I hated everything that was in my way but at the same time so thankful for it. But it caused a lot of stress. I was happy but figured it'd be easier if everyone left me alone to do what I wanted.
Now with me and my husband. I don't know how much he resents me for stopping him as much as I can but I know he is thankful for it too. That's what I focus on. We work through all the other issues.