You'll and up enabling her by giving her a place to live ect. I would run. Maybe your addicted to chaos. I know I am I married the same woman 2 times and its still the same crazy stuff. She's untreated bi polar. Thank god you don't have kids with this woman. Maybe you want to be the hero? It doesn't work that way with us alkys. We use people.. It won't work run don't walk! That's my advice