For me - there was no rhyme no reason to things that were brought up during my divorce proceedings ~
after a long drawn out process ~ we eventually settled & I did not have to pay spousal support but I did have to share with my attorney that my exah worked for cash and had the potential to make money, he just didn't have the desire to stay sober & gainfully employed.
Here's to hoping things will work out as to what is best for you & your children ~
PINK HUGS,