Originally Posted by
CentralOhioDad 
There is still too much denial and her thinking that she has total control over it, so anything I do means absolutely zilch.
Including talking to her about it, writing her letters, keeping logs, etc...
Your child has two parents who drink. Do you think he can distinguish between a blacked out parent on the couch in the living room and a sleepy parent in bed waiting for the blacked out parent to do something. All your child knows is he cried and cried and cried and nobody came for a long time. What are you teaching him?
Don't think 3 is too young to know. I see pictures of myself at 3, and i have frightened, sad, hurt eyes.