Originally Posted by
MrThekla 
I told him, yes, he most certainly was. Then I walked away and didn't talk to him for 5 years. Was depressing at first, but after a year or so I felt so much better about myself.
Pretty much what I've done. I don't even know if I'm heading toward 3 years NC or 4. And it did take some time, but bit by bit, I feel I'm slipping into sanity and seeing more clearly and feeling steadily better about myself.