I've been trying to weigh this out for myself for a long time. I've worked in service industry for fifteen years, with peers ranging from 21 to 41 who generally drink to some extent, and do it regularly. So it's been easy to talk myself out of feelin I had a problem by comparison for years. I don't drink everyday. I mostly drink socially. and being that I'm about 118 lbs and 5'4", I don't often need to drink more than a couple beers and shots to get pretty sloppy. So I had trouble defining myself as potentially "alcoholic".. (Though I have close relatives on both sides that definitely had been.) I just finally realized-- whatever it is I am-- I'm not happy with myself and my choices. That should be all the definition I need to know that something has to change, quickly.