maybe it's time to feed your own ego a little bit? Do something nice for yourself even if you don't feel like it.
What she did was wrong and selfishly egotistic. we all know it's not a relationship born out of respect, and you know she disrespected you along the way. It's ALL about HER, if you let it be.
You really DO have the power to be happy and deserve to be treated well. I hope you keep this front and center. Let her wonder that you aren't running to the phone to give her birthday wishes. Maybe Mr. Newly recovered won't make such a fuss over her either?