Originally Posted by
Westland 
I was planning to leave, but hadn't told her. Out of the blue, she wants to get sober-which includes tapering from two bottles plus, to one bottle plus, etc.
These people have an uncanny ability to sense when they have gone too far and know just when to pull out the promises, don't they.
Leave anyway because that's what you want to do. If she gets sober, and stays sober, great, maybe you can get back together and have the marriage you were meant to have.
If she doesn't, you haven't wasted any more time and haven't accumulated any more misery.
The tapering down theory of quitting drinking NEVER works. THey may taper down for a bit, but they always taper back up again. Or else, they taper down on the wine, but ramp up the vodka.
It's always best to let the alcoholics play this game alone.