Hmmm... I can relate. my family wants me to decide if my ABF relapses again then I need to leave. I know we are very different people and have different beliefs but I was raised in a Christian home and was taught to love everyone, even people who hurt me and to always forgive and never hold a grudge, so for me... I justify my codependency by saying what would Jesus do? He would forgive he would comfort he would rescue, and so Im torn.
you are far better off than me, because I haven't made the decision to leave...