sadly no duis etc arent always enough to get someone to quit drinking. my ah has had two and he told himself after the last im done but this is apart of the craziness of alcoholism they dont think sain for too long. ive learned that time and time again. your ah probably meant what he said but like its progression it jsut goes down hill.
your husband is not going to get sober simply because he says so.....actions speak alouder than words and if you/him wants change it needs to be into action.
that means outpatient, aa and if you threaten to leave because he drinks then follow through with it.
at the end of the day you can say all you want and he can say all he wants but talking isnt going to make this problem go away and you know this because like anything else you have to put action into making it happen. this is no different than paying your bills instead of just talking about paying them.
besy of luck