Originally Posted by MamaKit

Oh Caligirl my heart aches for you.
Unfortunately, I've been there too and I know how hard this is. You can do this and you've received some really great advice and support here so far. I can't offer much more other than what has been said. Take care of yourself and your children. Let him suffer the consequences of his actions. When you feel yourself spinning and confused, step back and imagine that your dearest friend is experiencing what you are going through. What would you tell her. It's a simple trick that helps me get "unmeshed", at least momentarily.
I'm rooting for you and sending my hugs and support.
Hugs,
MamaKit