Originally Posted by
KKE 
I still just keep coming back to this point where I feel I want to talk to him and just generally feel messed up.
This above ^^^ is a great place to start from today...its just a feeling. You don't need to act on that feeling. Especially when I think you know full well by now how it will turn out.
Titanic is right - would you rather be peaceful or right? And if being right is your priority, at what price will you pay to be right? And will anyone else but you care if you are right or not?
Letting go of the need to be right was one of the biggest recovery successes I've had so far. It helped to accept I
know my own truth, I don't need anyone's validation of what I already know to be right.
Arguing reality with an alcoholic is futile and crazy-making. He
has to hold onto his version to continue his addiction. No matter what you or anyone else says. Best to just quit talking and start doing.