With gentleness I say, you are treating an adult man like a child. The need to "mother him" is not healthy for you.
Please know I am not judging or condemning.
I was also guilty of trying to fix and contol. I had such a strong conviction, I really believed I could help/save/fix....... I am here to say I was DEAD WRONG. I did not understand what I was dealing with.
So both of you are in violation of the protective court order. You certainly are jeopardizing yourself here. Making decisions based on facts and not emotions is what is needed now. Sending you strength.