Hey Lion,
I feel your bewilderment. I am 30, and making the decision for myself to recover and live. My dad is 56, drank his whole life, and deteriorating at a rapid pace. The doctors told him years ago that he had to stop drinking or his liver would fail. That has not stopped him. I choose not to be him. I can't, no one can explain why some can make that choice and some can't. I am thankful that I am here, and alive, and relatively healthy while getting healthier every day. I wish my dad could choose the same for them, but as you may well know, only that person can make that choice. I don't know how many times a partner or my mom has tried to ask me to stop... I only stopped when I looked in the mirror and stopped making excuses and realized I owed it to myself to make a change.