Kc636 sorry to hear about your situation. must be a bit of a blow from no where. at least you found the right site to help you decide what you want to do for you and if you decide to stay, you will have a lot of information from some very wise people. you will always get conflicting advise, but the important part is just work out what is best for you. let him have his recovery and you go and work on you. you do sound like a very mature 20yr old so hopefully you wont be dragged into the depths of addiction (even if you are not the addict this world will be your hell too without the Highs). read, listen, and get an idea of what could lay ahead if you are going to stay. look at the stats for recovery. look at the stats of what percentage of kids of addicts become addicts. research research research to find out what lays ahead. and ask yourself do you want this life for you and your kids (if or when you have them) at the very least you will be completely prepared for whatever lays ahead and not going in with your eyes closed. information is power to make good choices.
i wish you all the best and am sorry for the reason you found this site. now please go to the dr and get some tests done.