"Maybe this man will sort himself out n get clean n she wont be wasting her life on an addict. Maybe some ppl who say things like this may need to work on their issues? "
Maybe...but the odds are not in her favor. Maybe some of us here have some experience in the world of codependency, enabling and addiction, me, I've been working on my issues for 65 years, addiction has eaten up my family and almost destroyed me.