Originally Posted by cli

Yes, well said, Katiekate! I'm still not fully in the "Close your legs. Period." camp, although that's usually the safest option. But I'm also not rushing to judge ilovehim nor her RA either. Sex is usually more nice than it is evil. But of course it can cause huge problems too, especially when addiction is in the mix.

So to sum up, NO ilovehim, you're not to blame if your sex screws up your RA's recovery. And YES, it is highly unwise for you to carry on, just for your own sanity. Beyond that it's up to you.