Originally Posted by
Katiekate 
Sounds like you are all about what it is he is thinking, if it will harm him.
HOney, it will harm you, in some way, some day, some how, you are hurting yourself with this thinking.
You need to focus on why it is you would give yourself away to someone you mean nothing too.
He's an idiot, but if he can get away with it, I guess that's your bad.
Yes, well said, Katiekate! I'm still not fully in the "Close your legs. Period." camp, although that's usually the safest option. But I'm also not rushing to judge ilovehim nor her RA either. Sex is usually more nice than it is evil. But of course it can cause huge problems too, especially when addiction is in the mix.
So to sum up, NO ilovehim, you're not to blame if your sex screws up your RA's recovery. And YES, it is highly unwise for you to carry on, just for your own sanity. Beyond that it's up to you.