Dorris,
I just wanted to wish you the best of luck on your new life. I also wanted to add in that my husband is 7+ months clean from opiates/benzos and he did not use the AA/NA approach. Instead he worked heavily with a private therapy in the beginning, and now is down to just one appointment a week. I do not think he would have been this successful following AA methodology because it would have been too depressive/repressive for him. In my research I have found that the principles of SMART, and also AVRT are closely related to what he has learned in his therapy. I personally have found the SMART / CRAFT program for families very helpful to me; uplifting and encouraging.
Just know, the trails of secular recovery are well worn and highly successful.