Welcome Texassucess!
I am glad you found us here...but sorry for the reason that brought you here.
I am about two years out from seperating from my A and I struggled with a lot of worry for him after we split up. I realized later I was grieving and had to work through all those pieces. Worry for me was a part of the denial of the reality that I had been living in for some time. I thought my life would just be perfect if my loved one would stop drinking.
I also felt better when I realized I did not have to make ALL of my decisions for the rest of my life in the next five minutes. It was amazing when I decided to not decide how much more was revealed when it needed to be.
Hugs to you and your kids, and again, welcome.