Thank you for telling me I did the right thing. I am sort of am sick to my stomach. I guess I worry he will think I don't care about him.
As far as trying to act normal, I would prefer he sounded weak. It would be reassuring for him to say "man my life is so messed up & I have a serious problem," rather than playing it cool. Maybe he is just overcompensating.
Thanks for the support! It helps more than you can know.