Saying no is hard...
My brother is in jail again & has been there for a month. He Is a crystal meth addict. He called me for the first time today & of course asked me for money. I said no. I didn't raise my voice or try to explain myself. Then I told him I loved him & goodbye. I think he was shocked because he was speechless. I was very hard to say no. In the past I have said no but then I would begin to make excuses why I couldn't. Not this time, I am so tired of his ways. In the past year I only heard from him twice & each time it was when I called him. Addiction is such a one way street.
Here is the thing, why did he try to act like he is ok and that everything is going fine. I figured he would sound depressed and lost. How can he be ok or is he just pretending to be ok. I just don't get him.
I now know, after 12 years of his addiction, I don't have to keep trying to help him. I just hope that if he is ready he will let me know.