Chickadees,
Welcome! Wow... you got off cheap with your XAFWB! Thank goodness you got off the roller coaster before it developed into a more expensive lesson. I spent countless thousands helping my XA who had ssoooooooo much potential!
Never fall in love with potential!
Now... as to his inability to react to his horrific behavior in any sort of normal way.... well... he ain't normal.
You were banging on the door of the hardware store and trying to buy bread. A's do not have any bread to give or share.
They are spiritually, emotionally and in every way.... bankrupt. He's a broken mess and isn't doing a thing to help himself.
Dust yourself off... thank your lucky stars that you are learning how to detect Alcoholic BS and toxic people BEFORE getting emeshed and entangled and hurt!
I am taking a vacation from toxic emotionally draining people, places and things and you can too!
Thats my goal...