I can admit I am a co dependent. I thought I was just someone who wanted to fix the man so he could love me. My father was an alcoholic who I thought didn't love me. Well he loved beer more and lots of it. So the next guy in my life was an addict and criminal, the next guy was a drunk and liked to lie and spend time with other women. The latest is a recovering alcohalic who turned to coke and suffers of course from depression.
All these men I tried to help and I got kicked in the teeth each and every time. My fault of course should have read the signs and keep on trucking. So the latest guy I am going the No Contact route to see if he understands what is happening. After a month I "may" contact him or not. But what I learned from all this is very rarely do they suffer because you gave up on them...there is always another person to fill your shoes.