YAY outonalimb! I have read the Big Book and agree that it can give us a lot of insight - particularly if we are discerning.
You didn't relapse into the "why you ARE an alcoholic" speech, and that's great!
That's a bright line one for me.
It's the other stuff that I have a hard time with, for example: when you see some material or hear some story or learn of some treatment that might help the A, but the A is not researching or scoping out that stuff in all honesty (or laziness); or when you spot some A behavior or consequence that is adversely affecting the children or me, and the A is in denial.
Would you share some words of wisdom on that?