I'm sorry JanJan. I truly can't think of many more things more heartbreaking that that.
Impurrfect is right tho - sometimes we need to hit a bottom and to work our own way out...and our loved ones need to protect themselves too from the everspreading black hole of chaos that is some many active addict's lives, as mine was.
I know you'll find support, understanding and encouragement here.
I hope you'll check out our Family and Friends forum too:
Friends and Family of Substance Abusers - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information
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