JanJan, as hard as it must be, I think you're doing the right thing. Enabling him only prolongs the issues. It is scary to think of what he might do but you have to just stay strong and let him know you love him. You can help him get to rehab, or help him get counseling, but giving him money just feeds into the old patterns. I know a woman who has enabled her son his entire life. He is now in his late forties and is very sick due his addictions. It's spiraled so far out of control that it can't be reversed. He is probably not going to live and it's heartbreaking to watch their family try to deal with this. I wish a different scenario for you.