((mfox)) - I was a victim when I was a raging codie and I was a victim when I turned to drugs because I couldn't control the A in my life.
I've been in recovery for going on 6 years, I'm STILL dealing with a lot of consequences from my using days, but I am no longer a victim. Like ((Freedom)), I've worked my recovery as if my life depends on it because it DOES.
Most of what I'm dealing with, today, I brought on myself. Stuff that I didn't bring on myself? I'm going to al-anon meetings for because I'm living with a codie/addict stepmom and codie dad.
Your AH is mad because he can't use, so "of course" it's everyone else's fault. Can't afford a gym? Go outside and walk, volunteer somewhere and help others. He's just not there yet, and there's no telling if he will ever GET there.
Good thing is, you don't have to accept or even listen to his whines.
Hugs and prayers,
Amy