This is baby steps, both of you are very raw and vunerable.
There has to be a slow transition back to trust, walls have to come down, there is no communication with walls. It's simply going to take time. You have both shared a lot of pain, it's really hard.
He needs to work a program, honey, you need to take good care of yourself.
None of this is easy, looking back now, I'm not sure I would have stuck around for the sobriety if it had been my xa's path. I was at low rock bottom, lots of rebuilding for me, I'm glad to be done with it now. So much pain for both of us.
Hang in, keep posting, be good to yourself. Katie xo