I can say that I can imagine what he's going through, and tell you that I tell my wife don't try and interpret what is going on, listen to what I'm saying. Take the words literally.
Sounds like he isn't directing anything AT you.
It sounds like he's processing. As alcoholics, there is a lot to process for a while, coping with feelings, and what has been done in the past, and how to move forward.
I wouldn't take it personally if he tells you that.