Originally Posted by
SadHeart 
Then they aren't amends, and no wonder they have the potential to hurt the people they've already hurt. According to this, the amends are all about the RA, not about the one they mistreated. Again. And again. It's always about the alkie, and the alkie is never held responsible.
Amends that are meant to make the RA feel better and not the victim of the RA's past actions, aren't amends, they are a form of masturbation.
It isn't to make the alcoholic
feel better. It is a mechanism of taking
personal responsibility for one's life and actions, past, present, and future. There's a big difference between the two.