Originally Posted by
onlythetruth 
I must say, I'm interested in what folks have to say about this. I've always had mixed feelings about the 9th step myself, having been on both sides of the equation.
I do think that the proviso in the step ("except when to do so would injure them or others") is too often ignored.
I'm also interested. In my fantasy, it would only be a good thing. But of the 4 alkies in my life, I doubt I'll ever have anyone try to make amends except possibly my son. My father is dead. Two XAHs are not likely to ever stop drinking. But it would be sweet if my son wanted to make amends. I can't imagine how that would be worse.
I had the opposite thought about the proviso: that it's used too often as a cop out, as in, I'd apologize and make amends to my exwife, but it would injure her or me (because she'd unload all her anger on me and I'd be injured by it).
I haven't heard of any bad stories about step nine to the people getting the amends; I'm curious now and will have to do a search.