Sueski-
He's been sober since April except for a one drink slip ~six weeks ago. It scares me to think he could get his life together and then relapse years down the road. But, I know I can't worry about it. I just pray he'll stay sober and get his life on track again.
You'll find a lot of great information on here that will help you. I was pretty good about not enabling, but reading here has really helped me know and understand my boundaries and remind myself that I can not control my RAS and his drinking- the only person I can control is myself.
The three biggies to say over and over to yourself: you did not cause it, you can not control it, and you can not cure it.